Ebook/Paperback Book By Alex Myles ~ An Empath: A Highly Sensitive Person’s Guide To Energy, Emotions and Relationships

An Empath: A Highly Sensitive Person’s Guide To Energy, Emotions And Relationships

Available in ebook, paperback and hardback

About The Author

Alex is a qualified Yoga teacher, Reiki Master, Teacher of Tibetan Meditation and Spiritual Coach along with many other practices that work with the flow of universal life force energy in order to harmonise the mind, body and soul. She is also an empath and is very aware of the powerful effect that energy has on all aspects of our existence, especially our relationships. Alex believes empaths are here on Earth for a divine purpose and that is to learn how to effectively radiate healing energy so that immense much-needed change can occur. However, she also believes that before we are able to heal others, it is vital that we first heal ourselves.

About the book

A 588 page, 54 chapter book covering a variety of subjects, including an understanding of an empath’s traits and characteristics, energy, remaining grounded and balanced, protecting our energy, triggers, projection, empath/narcissist relationships, healing, letting go, introverts, loneliness/solitude and beyond…

An excerpt from the book…

Empaths attract various types of relationships with those who either deny and repress how they feel or with those who are tormented by their emotions. The reason we are drawn towards them is because we naturally want to eradicate any form of suffering and pain. Unfortunately, we can  be quite naive and forget that not everyone in the world perceives things as we see them. This leaves us vulnerable and subjected to overwhelming and debilitating emotions.

We not only feel and experience our own condition, we also absorb the energy from everything and everyone around us too. Before we can fully understand ourselves or those we become intricately entangled with, we first have to learn how energy operates so that we can acknowledge, identify, discern, process and ultimately transmute all entities so that any negativity in our surrounds, or within ourselves, instantly transcends to positive.

Until we do this we will experience other people’s pain simultaneously, so whenever someone around is struggling emotionally, physically or psychologically we are gravitationally pulled down too and we then struggle with them.

Learning how to identify our own energy from all that exists around us allows us to find balance and harmony in what can seem at times like a raw and extremely harsh world. Our energetic skin is paper-thin and we are highly sensitive creatures and this means that being an empath can be an incredibly tormenting or an exquisitely beautiful way to experience life.

It is simply a double-edged sword.

Our sensitivities can help, however, they can also hinder us. That is until we figure out how to manage our gifts so that they elevate and construct us rather than causing a continuous pattern of internal or external devastation and deconstruction.

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Is It Possible For Someone To Be An Empath and A Narcissist?

Empaths are highly sensitive people and they can tune in to other people’s energy, including their emotions, feelings, motivations and beliefs.

They read people extremely well and some empaths are so highly attentive, observant, and intuitive that they can even tap into other people’s thought processes.

But here’s the thing…

So can narcissists.

In fact, many narcissists are even better and more highly skilled at reading people than empaths are.

Does this make a narcissist an empath? The answer is no, most definitely not. There is far more to being an empath than just being able to read energy and understand other people on a deep and intimate level.

The main difference between an empath and a narcissist is their intentions. What is behind their reason for reading people and what do they then intend to do with the information once they obtain it.

It is highly important to remember that not everyone has the same motivations, needs and desires. Two people, particularly an empath and a narcissist, can do exactly the same thing, but both can be intending and hoping for significantly different outcomes.

Empaths read other people’s energy for selfless reasons, and mainly so that they can be compassionate and reach out to offer support, healing and understanding. When they attune to other people’s emotions, feelings and tendencies they gain a deeper connection and generally find it natural to show compassion and be empathetic. Empaths transmute negative energy that radiates from people’s emotional states and they do this by absorbing the heavy, low vibrational signals that people emanate and they replace them with light, loving, caring high vibrations that are healing, peaceful and harmonious.

Narcissists read other people’s energy purely for selfish reasons and it is mainly so that they can then control, manipulate, delude and overpower other people. When they profile people by reading their energy they gain a greater insight into how their mindset works and the state of their emotional and mental wellbeing. This gives them a huge advantage over any unsuspecting, vulnerable or naïve person they come into contact with because the narcissist appears to be interested in the other person—by displaying faux care mixed with a little charm—so that they can fool them into thinking they are a genuinely empathetic person. The trouble is they only show interest to people if they think it will benefit them in some way, whether emotionally, financially or materialistically.

Empaths extend care and attention externally toward others and narcissists care and tend internally and purely for themselves. The two quite literally exist at entirely different ends of the spectrum and although they may seem to have characteristics that appear similar, underneath the surface they are most definitely not the same.

It is often thought that empaths have paper-thin skin while a narcissist’s is thick and impenetrable, but this is entirely untrue. In many ways the two are similar and this is why it can become confusing for people. The reason for this is that empaths and narcissists are both highly sensitive and they can both become hurt and offended extremely quickly and easily.

When an empath feels hurt or overly emotional, they generally internalize their pain and question themselves about what they could have done wrong to result in their experience of pain or how they might have caused someone to treat them in a certain way.

When narcissists feel hurt they externalize their pain and project it onto other people. They export their unpleasant feelings outwardly and would never question what they may have done to offend or hurt other people. Empaths regularly consider how they can change their behaviors, whereas, narcissists would refuse at all costs to take any responsibility for their actions, which is why it is unlikely that they ever change their ways—although it is a possibility.

Empaths feel other people’s pain, absorb it and they internally suffer for it and this causes them to be caring and considerate and try to alleviate other people’s suffering while also reducing the simulated pain they feel themselves. This is also often why empaths are known as wanting to “fix” or “heal” people.

Narcissists can also sense and feel other people’s pain, but instead of trying to understand the other person and show compassion, care and consideration, they are far more likely to get angry and aggressive at the other person for making them feel emotions they would rather not feel or be aware of. This can then cause the narcissist to turn on the other person with cruel and cutting words or anger so that the other person feels guilty and ashamed for causing the narcissist to experience emotions that they picked up on and are not their own.

The biggest difference between empaths and narcissists is the ego.

Empaths do not focus their attention on satisfying or building up their ego. They generally have little interest, care or awareness of what other people think of them and if they want or need something they will work hard to provide for themselves without intentionally hurting others in the process.

Narcissists are concerned with their ego and will use people and step on them to get what they want. They go to great lengths to protect their ego’s desires and if any one criticizes or rejects them or attempts anything that could hurt their ego they become extremely defensive and will tear the other person down and try to weaken them before they even get close.

When an ego is inflated and at its worst it will push people to be overly obsessed with their physical appearance, financial status, personal possessions and generally how they are perceived by others. When the ego is balanced, these things are still important to many people but not at the same high level. What causes someone to be narcissistic is the way they use, control and manipulate people to cause illusions so that they are able to gain and maintain superficial things. They will go to great lengths to preserve their lifestyle without caring if they hurt or destructively affect other people in any way to get their egotistical needs met.

Although empaths and narcissists are on opposing ends of the spectrum and it is not possible to be both at the same time, it is possible for empaths to behave in ways that could be viewed as narcissistic, particularly if they feel emotionally hurt. They can still be aggressive, unkind, selfish, and treat people in ways that are not acceptable, however, they are aware of the affects of their actions and clearly see and take responsibility for how they behave and will interrogate themselves to find the root cause of it and try to change.

At the same time they will also feel guilty for how they may have affected the other person, so their suffering is internally compounded. Empaths also do not express negative behaviors with the intention of gaining anything, in any way, from other people. Narcissists will not suffer either for themselves or others and will do whatever it takes to make other people carry those emotions.

Everyone is capable of expressing themselves in ways that are negative and that can be detrimental to others, but the significant difference is that a narcissist’s intention is to feed off other people to satisfy their ego self, whereas other people express their negative, low vibrational tendencies without the intention of benefiting financially, materialistically or for superficial personal reasons and they will recognize how they act and take accountability.

Written by Alex Myles

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Originally published https://www.elephantjournal.com/2016/08/is-it-possible-to-be-both-an-empath-a-narcissist/

An Introduction To Reiki

One of the first signs we receive that tell us that we are an empath is the incredibly painful sensation that we feel when we are around someone who is suffering either emotionally, mentally, or physically. Often, though, when we feel compelled to heal it can also be a sign that we have areas that are unhealed.

Our hands’ are transmitters and are incredible tools to soothe and heal as our touch connects our energy directly with other people’s. Empaths have the ability to know the area that the pain is coming from and often what is causing it.

We can then channel our energy to flow through to our fingertips and the energetic waves transfer through our fingers to balance and harmonize the energy of the person we are sending healing to.

When healing, we do not need to physically touch anyone else. We can simply hold our hands above the area and radiate healing energy.

We can also do this through a visualization imagining the scenario in our mind as though we are healing them in person.

It isn’t just humans that empaths are drawn to heal, we also use our gift to soothe the suffering of animals, Mother Earth, and the universe. While we can offer healing energy to others, for the healing to be effective each person must ultimately take responsibility for healing themselves by dealing with the pain at the root.

Empaths are able to detect the deep-seated emotions that other people hold on to and this energy cause blockages within their system. We are naturally empathetic and are the nurturers, caregivers, and healers. Many empaths serve humanity, finding work in holistic therapies, spiritual arts, energy work, psychic fields, nutrition, counseling, psychology, social work, teaching, and the medical and veterinary fields.

The empaths who are not professional healers will most likely still be healing people whether they are doing it consciously or subconsciously.

The reason we feel other people’s pain so intensely, whether emotionally or physically, is because we have the divine ability to radiate healing energy through sending powerful energetic waves of universal energy and transmuting negativity. Everyone, whether an empath or not, can radiate healing energy.

We sense the pain that exists within people that has been repressed or ignored and we are able to unearth root causes and offer compassion and unconditionally loving light energy. However, the trouble is that not everyone wants this pain to be uprooted. Unraveling past and painful experiences and memories is not easy and not everyone wants to delve into and pick at old wounds.

Whenever we see someone physically or emotionally wounded, our gut instinct that rises from our sacral chakra is to reach out with our hands. When we offer healing energy, we also engage the heart chakra, as healing is a process of showing compassion while transcending and radiating love.

Reiki is a magical universal spiritual life force energy that is deep within us all. As we are all made of the same energy, we are all connected therefore when generate and radiate high vibrational energy, it automatically connects and interacts with all external energy. To connect to Reiki for the purpose of healing is very simple and natural.

We can easily channel this universal energy to balance, heal, and harmonize the body and mind and raise our own vibrations and the vibrations that surround us. The word Reiki derives from two Japanese words. Rei translates to wisdom or higher power, and Ki translates to life force energy. Reiki can be used as a therapy to alleviate physical, mental, or emotional pain, though it is also a way of life if we align to the principles and practice them regularly.

We all have the capacity to heal ourselves and to send healing vibrations out to others. When we are still, we are able to scan the body and mind to find exactly where the root of conflict or pain lies. As Hermann Hesse explains in his book Siddhartha  and Paulo Coelho in his bestseller  The Alchemist, everything we need to know can be found when we are still and listen to our inner selves. We can listen to our inner selves when we practice meditation.

Empaths often find that after a particularly stressful day or if we awake during the night full of anxieties our bodies are tense and holding on to an overwhelming amount of painful emotions. Reiki is a tool that can instantly calm, heal, and soothe, and once we have practiced it on ourselves we can then send any excess healing energy out into the universe so that it can be absorbed wherever it is needed.

 

When we have a headache, we instinctively place our hands on our heads. If we allow the mind to calm so we are focusing on the feeling of the energy flowing from our hands to our heads, within moments the pain subsides and any stress that has built up will be alleviated.

The same process can be practiced with aches and pains anywhere else in the body and also with emotional pain. Emotional trauma that lingers eventually manifests in the body as physical pain, so we can scan the body to locate the area and allow our energetic vibrations to soothe and heal.

We can also uncover issues that we are holding on to that we may not have realized existed. When we are able to acknowledge and heal emotional pain, we are able to rid the body of the physical pain that is connected to the emotional injury.

When we practice Reiki regularly we will find that as soon as we think about Reiki healing our hands will instinctively begin to tingle with sensations and warm as the energy is channeled in preparation for the practice. As soon as the connection from the mind to the hands is made, both the healing energy and the heat will naturally build.

To benefit fully from the energy that Reiki creates, it is necessary to calm our minds so that we can relax and surrender to the treatment.

A basic Reiki healing treatment: either sit or lie down somewhere comfortable and totally relax the body. To connect with the body, scan it from top to toe and pay attention to the sensations and signals it is sending out. This will indicate if there are any tension, aches, or pains.

Focusing on the mind, let go of any thoughts. Slow the breathing and inhale and exhale deeply. Consider if there is anything that may be causing emotional or physical distress. If so, trace the sensations to find the root cause. Allow the energy from the surrounding energetic field to be directed toward the hands and channel the vibrations so that they filter through them.

Visualize a surrounding brilliant white light and pull the energy inward toward the hands. The hands may begin to feel hot or tingly. Move the hands, sweeping them over the body, moving slowly over the chakra areas, and allow them to rest when it instinctively feels right to do so. As we move our hands over the body, it also helps to harmonize the energy field. Place the hands on or above the area that needs attention.

The area that we are drawn to will likely feel tense, be aching slightly, or have subtle sensations. When we focus on this area, our awareness increases and we can tune in to what is happening within the body. We can then visualize the area of concern as a shape with color. The shape may be tiny in structure or it could be huge, expanding out of the body.

As we visualize the colorful shape, we can channel and direct warm, loving, healing energy toward this area and remain focused on it until the shape reduces in size. As it reduces, we may also notice the physical sensations dissipate.

We can either put the hands physically on the body or hold them just above the area when we are healing ourselves. If we are healing someone else it will depend on their personal preference, though if we prefer to hold the hands above the body that is our ultimately our own decision.

Remain in this position, allowing the energy from the body to flow through to your hands. Keep the mind calm, relaxing as much as possible, letting go of any negative energy that may be emanating from the shape or anything else we may be unconsciously holding on to.

When the tension has released and the area has reenergized, the hands will begin to move again. We can then scan the body again and focus on any other areas that cause the hands to slow down. Again we repeat the process, holding the hands in place until the energy has cleared. Pay fine attention to how the body and mind are feeling.

When we have finished, we can rebalance and cleanse the aura from top to toe, starting at the head and moving the hands toward the toes in a sweeping motion to clear out any negative energy. When ready, slowly awake and rise gently.

After a Reiki treatment it is natural to feel a glowing radiance through and around the mind, body, and spirit.

Although we have focused on a specific blocked area, the energy that we have channeled will radiate so that both the body and mind have received a full healing treatment. As we clear blockages, our universal life energy is free to flow through us, and not only do we heal ourselves, we are also in a position to channel our energy so that we can also heal others.

A Reiki healing session can feel similar to how it might feel being wrapped tightly and secure in a spider’s cocoon, completely safe and protected. The experience is one of being entirely immersed in a loving divine light. The body, mind, and spirit are connected as one while a safe, warm glow surrounds us.

Reiki is not something that is explained easily, it is something that is felt and experienced. Many people may not consider Reiki as they think it is a complex practice that takes a lot of training. However, Reiki is a simple and loving exercise that we can do for ourselves anywhere at any time. It is a blend of mindfulness, understanding ourselves clearly, and soothing and reenergizing areas that have become blocked due to build ups of energy that result in feeling physiological pain.

Once we know how to give Reiki to ourselves, we can also send healing vibrations to animals, to other people, to the Earth, and out to the universe. Radiating excess energy is the perfect way to keep the energy fluidly flowing through us.

There is an abundance of universal life energy. It is limitless. The more we connect to it, the more energized the more enhanced our healing powers will be enhanced, so the energy will continuously recharge and radiate out from us and on to whoever else may need it.

 

Benefits of the Ancient Art of Smudging (Burning Sage)

Smudging (burning herbs and plant resins for medicinal and spiritual use) has been used since ancient times for healing and to clear the build up of emotional or spiritual negativity.

Smudging is often viewed as some sort of magical practice, however recent studies have shown that there is scientific evidence that medicinal smoke is a powerful antiseptic that can purify the air of 94% of harmful bacteria for up to 24 hours.

The electromagnetic field (aura) around our body, as well as the energy in our environment, can become blocked with harmful positive ions that can make us feel fatigued, sluggish and burnt out.

Burning sage or other herbs neutralizes the positive charge and releases large amounts of negative ions into the atmosphere. This means that our own energy, and the energy around us, will feel lighter and freer.

Once we have lit the sage, we can first smudge ourselves by slowly waving the sage around our body, starting at the floor and then moving it up over our head and around us in circles. When finished, the sage can be placed with the burning side facing down in a fireproof bowl. We can allow our intuition to guide us to where the sage needs to travel.

As we walk around each room, we may find we are compelled to remain in certain areas longer than others. This is where the energy is densest. This practice shouldn’t be hurried so allow the sage to remain burning for as long as it feels necessary. Sage needs to be burning for approximately one hour to be fully effective.

When moving with the sage, we can pay extra attention to windows, doors and any other openings. We should ensure we don’t directly inhale the sage while we are moving around. If we don’t wish to walk around with the sage, an alternative option is purchasing a sage holder to rest the sage in while it burns.

I would recommend burning sage at the beginning of each new week to clear out the old and make way for the new. We can also burn it at the change of a season or at the start of the winter or summer solstice. Leave at least one window or door open to allow the smoke to pass through.

Sage has a masculine energy, and incense has a feminine energy, so once we have burned sage we can light an incense stick to balance the two energies.

It is also the reason that we feel like we could “cut the tension with a knife” during an argument, or if someone is in a bad mood. A build up of positive ions due to stress, anger or any form of tension releases positive ions and causes the energy around us to become stagnant. Burning herbs turns the positive ions back to negative ones, and therefore, the practice purifies and cleanses the atmosphere.

Although smudging and similar practices have been classed as “new age” or dismissed as fantasy or spiritual nonsense by those attempting to discredit them, research is scientifically proving that there are great benefits to the rituals that the Native Americans (along with many other indigenous groups) have inherently known of and practiced with faith throughout time.

Burning herbs is a popular method of purification in many religions and cultures. Growing up with religion, I became accustomed to smudging, as frankincense was burned in churches. Incense is commonly burned in Asia and in Buddhist temples, and the Incas burned palo santo wood. It has been a tradition in South America for hundreds of years.

The Native Americans ritualistically smudge using sacred herbs, and their technique is known as the Sacred Smoke Bowl Blessing. The most common herbs used include cedar, sage, sweetgrass and tobacco—and they are known as the Four Manido.

Once the sacred plant is burned, the cloud of smoke that emanates is used to prepare for prayer ceremonies, rituals and purification. Smudging is believed to heighten the sensitivity of healers, or the medicine men, so that they achieve an enhanced state of mind and can affectively assess and treat illness.

Not only is smudging used in spiritual practices, but it can also have medicinal benefits for those who are affected by poor air quality. This means it can help those who suffer from asthma, headaches, lung problems and respiratory issues, as well as general coughs and colds.

Sage is one of the most popular herbs used for smudging. The word sage stems from the Latin word salvia,which translates to “healthy” or “to heal.”

Studies have also shown that burning sage increases clarity and awareness, heightens wisdom, improves moods and enhances the memory and quickens the senses. (It is no coincidence that the word sage is also used to describe someone steeped in wisdom and humility.)

How to smudge with sage:

Burning sage is known to dispel negative energy—or to cleanse, purify and protect our body, mind and spirit, as well as our environment.

Bundled white sage is the easiest to use and is available for purchase from most local herb or health stores.

The smoke from the sage attaches to any negative energy in the air, and as the smoke dissipates and clears, it carries the energy with, and transmutes it from negative to positive. Sage changes the ionic composition in the air, so we will sense the difference in the atmosphere immediately.

Before burning sage, we can keep in mind the intention of what we want to achieve. If there is a particular energy we want to erase from the atmosphere, we can focus our awareness on it, so that the cleansing is strengthened and the protection is enhanced.

When we light the sage, a flame might occur. If this happens, we can gently blow on the flame or waft your hand near the flame, until only the embers are glowing and the sage is producing a smoky trail. The smoke is what clears and removes negativity, not the flame. It is common to have to relight sage a few times during the ritual.

Once we have lit the sage, we can first smudge ourselves by slowly waving the sage around our body, starting at the floor and then moving it up over our head and around us in circles. When finished, the sage can be placed with the burning side facing down in a fireproof bowl. We can allow our intuition to guide us to where the sage needs to travel.

As we walk around each room, we may find we are compelled to remain in certain areas longer than others. This is where the energy is densest. This practice shouldn’t be hurried so allow the sage to remain burning for as long as it feels necessary. Sage needs to be burning for approximately one hour to be fully effective.

When moving with the sage, we can pay extra attention to windows, doors and any other openings. We should ensure we don’t directly inhale the sage while we are moving around. If we don’t wish to walk around with the sage, an alternative option is purchasing a sage holder to rest the sage in while it burns.

I would recommend burning sage at the beginning of each new week to clear out the old and make way for the new. We can also burn it at the change of a season or at the start of the winter or summer solstice. Leave at least one window or door open to allow the smoke to pass through.

Sage has a masculine energy, and incense has a feminine energy, so once we have burned sage we can light an incense stick to balance the two energies.

Written by Alex Myles

If you would like to join a Facebook group I created for empaths to connect with one another please click here

To purchase my book, An Empath, on Amazon please click here  (available on ebook or paperback)

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Originally published on https://www.elephantjournal.com/2016/11/scientific-facts-that-make-me-want-to-start-smudging-right-now/

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March Full Moon in Virgo Opposite Pisces: The Battle Between The Heart & The Head

 

On Sunday March 12th the Moon will be full in the sign of Virgo, with the Sun opposite in Pisces.

This quote by Jay Long accurately explain this Full Moon, “Even a wolf needs to rest.”

February was a relentless and turbulent emotional storm of a month with two eclipses churning our insides around and making many of us feel like a hot emotional mess. This Full Moon won’t be offering too much of a reprieve as it will still challenge us, however, in an entirely different way. It is calling upon us to release, surrender, let go and take some much-needed rest.

Ultimately this means trying our hardest to ‘let things be’ by trying not to control or hurry what is truly meant for us.

This period will be asking us to find the balance between the heart and the head so that we do not let our feelings ultimately reign over our actions. This will seem almost impossible for those who wear their hearts on their sleeves and roar fearlessly in vulnerability, however, we will burn ourselves out if we do not stop occasionally to refuel.

Fortunately Saturn, the planet of control and willpower is currently in Sagittarius, the planet of insight and restraint, and is also at a right angle to the Full Moon. Therefore we will be feeling stronger and more disciplined, which will thankfully prevent us from being too impulsive and saying or doing things we will later regret.

The reason our sensitivities will be heightened is because water sign Pisces pulls our emotions to the surface and shows us how deep they run. The Full Moon then illuminates how we are feeling by shining it’s radiant light, allowing Virgo’s critical eye to pick and prod and make us see not only our own flaws and faults, but those of our loved ones too.

We will also be feeling hyper emotional as Mercury and Centaur Chiron visit Pisces. Chiron is the wounded healer who cosmically forces us to visit our unhealed, open wounds so that we can heal. We will likely feel triggered to react and respond, at times quite childishly, as our old injuries surface and remind us of the past inner pain we went through and of the bleeding wounds that badly need attention.

During this Full Moon, it is vital to remind ourselves that it is our responsibility to soothe and balm our wounds, not anyone else’s. We will be tempted to have little drama episodes and cry out to others to validate and tend to us, however, all this just keeps us weak and codependent on others. While it may feel nourishing to allow others to take tender care of us, it is essential for our evolution that we first know how to fully care for ourselves.

We can do this by embodying the spirit of the lone wild wolf, who wanders like a warrior learning everything he needs for survival. This means that when, or if, he does meet a mate and eventually has his own pack, he will have all the tools within to love, protect and nourish himself and others from a place of strength, wisdom, and health and not from a place of insecurity, lack or dysfunction.

The lone wolf has emotional, mental and physical yearnings too and despite his desire to find what his heart, body and soul long for, he refuses to settle for ordinary and instead pushes himself to extremes on the journey for soul growth and self-discovery. Innately he knows that before he is ready to connect on a deep and meaningful level with others, he has to first connect intimately with himself.

Whenever we are being called to have patience and our circumstances are not working out the way we might have planned, particularly in regards to love, it will soothe our soul if we remind ourselves that we are building and growing and everything we are going through is necessary to prepare and open us up so that we embody, give and receive the highest forms of peace, pleasure and love that we are capable of.

Alongside all the issues concerning soul-growth, security and stability, Neptune and Pisces in the Sun will be radiating a powerful vibration filled with magic and mystery. This will cause us to feel torn between remaining grounded and realistic or floating up and away into a dreamlike fairytale world where we can wish upon stars and imagine that our wildest fantasies will all come true.

As much as we want to get lost within our imagination, Saturn will gently pull us back down to Earth so that we receive the opportunity to relax and rest our weary hearts and minds.

Although we will be feeling highly sensitive and our intuition will be delivering long-awaited answers to questions that have caused us anxiety and suffering, it is imperative that we wait until we are balanced, calm, and rational, before making life-altering decisions.

Celestial energies will be conspiring in our favor during this Full Moon, although, at the time it will seem as though they are working against us. Any obstacles that we run into during this period are there as learning curves to either slow us down and think a little deeper, or to open our hearts and love a little harder. Either way, we will come through the other side of this Full Moon phase feeling centered, clearer, and rooted in faith that we have all the tools we need to deal with any situation we are faced with.

We will be caught between Pisces, who has no care for boundaries, and Virgo, who is cautious and wary, so we will find ourselves looking twice before attempting to blindly cross into unknown territory. Saturn joins Virgo to take a firm grip of our hands and hold us back so that we do not continue to make fools out of ourselves under the guise of love.

Rather than blazing full steam ahead and spilling our emotions wherever we roam, we will instead truly begin to understand the importance of beaming our love and affection where it is valued and appreciated rather than running out of energy through placing it into the hands of those who will take without limits and bleed us dry.

Although planetary activity will be influencing us to behave more sensibly this will work in our favor during this Full Moon. When we are clear and focused with our intentions, we are far more likely to manifest our hopes and desires. While it is amazing to daydream our lives away, we won’t achieve anything unless we are sure that these dreams are realistic.

Virgo and Saturn will be conspiring in the Universe to cosmically bring our greatest wishes to fruition. We just need to be sure about what it is we want and then to have faith that almost anything is possible when we commit to our dreams and fully believe in our ability to reach them. That is why it is essential that we fully pay attention to our innermost wants and needs during this Full Moon.

We need to be brave and find the courage to change certain parts of our lives, or the way we are acting, so that pieces of our past, present and future can neatly slot together.

This Full Moon is asking us to relax our hearts and trust in the Universe so that we patiently wait for everything to work out, if it is destined, when the time is right and not a moment sooner. And for all the things that don’t work out – they simply weren’t meant for us and beneficial for our higher good.

Fate can be a painful pill to swallow at first, but when it sinks in and takes effect, we will notice how it brings more peace in our minds, happiness in our bones, and love in our hearts than we could ever have imagined possible.

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An Introvert’s Survival Guide For The Party Season

I am a classic introvert. By choice I would hibernate winter away, scurry out in the spring to gather and collect necessities for my nest and then settle back into my haven where I feel loved, understood and safe.

However, I also adore exploring new terrain, discovering far-off lands, meeting new people and marinating in fascinating cultures. Therefore, I sometimes feel like a contradiction.

I ache to go out, yet I feel strongly compelled to stay in.

The main reason for this is that the world largely consists of extroverted people, and social gatherings are mostly structured to suit their desires and preferred lifestyles.

For example, restaurants have tables closely knitted together, bars generally allow everyone to freely wander in and out of one another’s personal space and special events contain mass conglomerations of human beings shoulder-to-shoulder all inhaling the same oxygen, contributing to piercing noise levels and emanating varying frequencies of energy.

This may sound like social heaven to extroverts, but to introverts it is social hell. To say events are excruciatingly painful is a massive understatement.

Introverts do like to venture out, but if it is to the wrong places their energy floods out of them.

Although, they will likely feel energized and at ease at events where there is a common focus (such as concerts, sporting events and the cinema) as everyone is there for a similar purpose and the energy is accumulated so that everyone is vibrating on a similar frequency.

Bars, clubs and parties do not share this same energetic equilibrium; generally speaking, there is not a shared consensus, as people are there for their own unique purpose. Some may be there to dance the night away, others for one night of lust or romance or even to find a prospective wife or husband. There will be those wanting to consume copious amounts of alcohol while others may just be out with friends to converse or catch up.

There are varying levels of energy in bars, clubs and parties, as the focus is centered on each individual rather than one central attraction, and this can cause friction and unrest in the atmosphere as each person’s energy field radiates depending on their unique intention for the outing. As introverts are highly sensitive to energy, they can very quickly become disorientated and unnerved as the energy levels fluctuate from very high to very low person to person.

Introverts would love to find ambience in large crowds of people at bars, clubs or parties, though sadly we are more likely to find engulfing and ravaging debilitation.

An introvert’s ideal social scenario would likely consist of a small collection of friendly but nonintrusive people, a roaring fire glowing and softly warming the room, maybe a guitar or piano being elegantly played in the corner, tables positioned around the edges of the room with barriers around them so that we feel somewhat protected, lights dimmed with candles burning and gentle but high energy permeating the room—and possibly a mug of hot cocoa. To top it off, there would also likely be a resting room where we could sit back, comforted by pillows and cushions with very little noise so we could reenergise, ground and centre before re-emerging to continue the evening. Oh, and some deep but mind-blowing, thought-provoking conversation.

Or, our perfect night may just be a cosy night in with good food, something delicious to drink, blankets and a beautifully written book.

To people who may not understand introverts, I can see why they may think we see ourselves as “precious” or “fragile” or maybe too tender for the rawness or harshness of the world. I often used to irritate myself being so totally bewildered and guarded against external entities, so I sometimes berated my personal ways and told myself to “toughen up” and just get out there, breathe and cope better.

In all honesty, this made me feel worse.

Instead, I now care for myself, show consideration and accept that humans are not all built the same. So there is no use condemning our introverted natural states.

We are all different.

There are some who love peanut butter and jelly, while other people hate it or are even allergic to it. Some people adore being closely connected to strangers, while others abhor it and break out in hives.

We can’t judge, as we don’t know the intricate details of why, what, when or even possibly who caused us to be this way. We aren’t even sure if we are born this way—if nurture or nature is the cause, whether it is genetics, evolution or if it was the blended result of a myriad of reasons.

We just are different. That is all we can really say, as we will never know how it feels to exist as anyone else.

So, my words of advice are not to ground yourself before going out. I’m not going to say perform rituals, protect your energy field, say mantras or have a dear friend on standby waiting to pretend-call-you with a made-up emergency that no one will believe just so you can escape through the closest exit.

My words to introverts are simple:

Go to the places you choose to go to, where you feel comfortable, where the surrounding energy is soothing to your own and where you are not constantly on high alert. Travel and soak in the places where the energy aligns with your own.

Make connections with people who understand the need for introspection and who reciprocate a similar vibe back, overflowing with consideration and acceptance.

Seek out the people who understand how it feels to sometimes feel as though you don’t belong to this world.

Talk with those who remind you that it is okay to be you and it is more than acceptable to not always (or never) like the same things that everyone else appears to.

Don’t go anywhere that you desperately don’t want to just because “everyone else is going.” Set your own route and let quality matter over quantity, and if that leads you to the same places you always go, then go anyway. Even if that places if within your own four walls.

We enjoy our lives and find fulfillment and happiness when we answer our own calling and listen to ourselves. We should never be miserable to be liked, to fit in, to please other people or to prove to ourselves or others that we are not weird or reclusive. We have to live with ourselves; therefore, we are the ones who know what makes us content and what satisfies our soul.

There are no rules or regulations that state we must go out to a variety of social events. Where we go is always our decision and ours alone. So choose to be around people who understand this without needing to justify yourself.

Socialising is exhausting and draining. Introverts thrive in their own company, and we find it invigorating, regenerating and energizing. Therefore, we have to adapt our lives to complement our own blueprint, not anyone else’s or ones that society has mapped out for us.

We can still push ourselves out of our comfort zones and do things that may not feel natural, though only if we are not forced or manipulated into doing so.

When we are secure in who we are and fully accept our introversion, we can then break through our introverted barriers without feeling as though we are leaving ourselves vulnerable.

Despite how the above may read, introverts aren’t boring, self-obsessed, loners or anti-social creatures. We just like to do things a little differently to what may be considered the “norm.”

We are not external; we are internal. We feel everything deeply and crave the highs and lows that are found in adventure, and we desperately want close encounters and heartfelt connections.

We just need peace, harmony and tranquillity to accompany our introverted hearts, whether the roads we decide to roam lead us to the indoors or the outdoors.

 

Alex Myles is a qualified yoga and Tibetan meditation teacher, Reiki Master, spiritual coach and also the author of An Empath, a newly published book that explains various aspects of existing as a highly sensitive person. The book focuses on managing emotions, energy and relationships, particularly the toxic ones that many empaths are drawn into. Her greatest loves are books, poetry, writing and philosophy. She is a curious, inquisitive, deep thinking, intensely feeling, otherworldly intuitive being who lives for signs, synchronicities and serendipities. Inspired and influenced by Carl Jung, Nikola Tesla, Anaïs Nin and Paulo Coelho, she has a deep yearning to discover many of the answers that seem to have been hidden or forgotten in today’s world. To purchase Alex’s paperback book or ebook please clickhere or click here to connect with her on Facebook, or click here to join Alex’s Facebook group for empaths and highly sensitive people to connect.

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A Guideline to Surviving Christmas In The Company of A Narcissist

Spending time closely connected to a narcissist is difficult enough at the best of times, but being in a relationship with or closely connected to one over a holiday period can bring on an intense dose of the holiday blues.

The first thing to remember, which will likely save an incredible amount of stress, is that narcissists are usually deeply scarred and see themselves as the victims. Therefore, the “blame” for everything that happens to them sits firmly on everyone else’s shoulders.

Trying to get a narcissist to accept the result of their actions or miraculously transform their character is, unfortunately, a wish unlikely to come true. Even though the narcissist is terribly unhappy in their current state, they are devoid of anything that challenges them to feel genuine joy, love and happiness. They can thus remain closely acquainted with the negative emotions such as anger, hatred and envy that they have come to feel comfortable with and understand so well.

Holidays heighten a narcissist’s traits as their obsessive need to provoke fights, garner attention and control others elevates to ridiculously high levels.

This is because holiday seasons are not all about narcissists; they involve everyone. 

Therefore, narcissists pull out their box of magic tricks and do whatever they can to stop special events from stealing their thunder. They want to be higher up than everyone around them and will spend the entire holiday period critically looking down upon everyone else.

Keeping the narcissist satisfied, be it through time, effort, attention or expensive material gifts, will be a full-time job with not one single reward. It won’t matter one iota to a narcissist if the person they are draining is emotionally or physically burned out, or if there are insufficient finances to keep up with their flamboyant desires. Their demands continue until they have bled the person they are “feeding” from dry.

The most devastating thing about this is that when we are prey to a predatory narcissist, we suffer inner turmoil, which eats away at us from the inside out. We may even feel as though we are going insane.

This can worsen over holiday periods, as we feel so low that we may also let other people down, finding it difficult to eat, have fun, communicate or join in festivities.

On the other side of the scale, the narcissist appears to be in their element, possibly wearing a twisted smirk on their face that reflects the pleasure they feel that everything is going their way. They may even get an extra burst of energy right when they know that everyone else has lost theirs. This then makes it look as though they are not in the wrong and it is everyone else who is miserable!

Narcissists are unpredictable and will swing from high to low like a possessed seesaw, making it impossible to work out what they may do next. With a narcissist, we should always be on guard, expecting the unexpected and letting go of unrealistic hopes that holidays will be a smooth, harmonious and enchanting ride.

Narcissists may use one of their most infamous tools—the silent treatment—in which they are highly skilled.

They might deliberately ignore guests, friends or members of their own or their partner’s family. They want to make it known to those near and far how deeply miserable they are so they can extract sympathy and pity from anyone willing to express it.

Quite often this is because a narcissist’s childhood festivities were traumatic; therefore, holiday seasons are a painful reminder of nightmares from their past. They may have been deprived of quality time with close family members, or it may be that they never experienced the high excitement found in Christmas spirit, so they don’t know how to handle the loving, bonding energy that is usually in abundance during the holidays.

Although, it is possible that quite the opposite may have happened. Narcissists might have been so ridiculously spoilt, to the point that nothing they receive matches up to their precious previous experiences.

It is likely that rather than feeling happy for those who appreciate Christmas, narcissists feel resentful and envious. They tell themselves and anyone who wants to listen that everyone else is faking happiness and they are being hypocritical for spending time with those who aren’t normally around. They fail to see that Christmas is a time when loved ones gather together.

The whole scene makes narcissists feel sick to the stomach—until the vitriol rises and erupts in a volatile explosion.

They suck the energy from anyone they can latch onto so that those closest to them are drained to the point of debilitation. One of the most bewildering things about being close to a narcissist is that certain people fail to see the devastation they cause.

This is because narcissists know exactly whom they can weave their web of dysfunction around and whom they can’t. Narcissists may use gaslighting techniques so that they can make their victim feel as though they are going crazy, while they look entirely innocent.

When we engage with narcissists, we are vulnerable to their ability to turn everything around and accuse us of being the perpetrator of malicious words or actions. It is so easy to be triggered by a narcissist, as they play low and use our wounds and weaknesses to hit us where it hurts most. No response, no reaction or no contact are not easy when dealing with a narcissist, but they are all-important when we need to keep our self-worth and sanity in check.

If a narcissist knows they have nothing to gain, be it energy, financial or material gains or destroying other people’s moods, they turn their charm up to the highest degree and dazzle those around them with their happy and joyous “other side.”

They do this simply to make it look as though we are delusional, so they can keep up their manipulative behaviour unquestioned.

This can make it difficult to seek support, as when we turn to someone else for advice they struggle to see what we see. To us the narcissist will be controlling, deceptive and malicious, and all hell could be breaking loose, yet in front of other people they may turn the false jubilation up full to keep the façade in place.

As long as a narcissist is influencing other people’s moods, one way or the other, they are internally satisfied, regardless of how happy or sad they may appear on the surface.

It is well-known that narcissists are not forthcoming with gift-giving, being present, spending quality time with their family or friends or showing kindness or gratitude. They are more likely to do the opposite, even destroying other people’s gifts and precious time that should be spent together. If they do buy gifts, it is more likely something they want for themselves, rather than what the other person wants to receive.

Narcissists may also be unfaithful, deceitful and lie more compulsively during holidays. They may go for long periods without getting in touch, purely to cause devastation, turmoil and pain to those who care about them.

Firm boundaries are essential, so that we can stand well back from their stage performance and view it for exactly what it is. Knowledge is key. When we are aware of their behaviour and the detrimental effects it has on everyone around them, we can begin to take steps to either protect or remove ourselves from their clawed grasp.

Where possible, try not to allow their illusions of grandeur or power to influence and alter holidays.

It is not reality. We can accept it or back away from it; it is our choice. However difficult it may seem, we should try not to react emotionally or get too meticulously involved.

We should try to leave the narcissist to pout and sulk, and eventually their fury will dissipate. If we can make arrangements without them or take regular breaks, it will ease the stress and tension we experience.

Giving them as little attention as possible is the best way to avoid any showdowns. If there is no one in the audience, the performance in the theatre has very little meaning.

Narcissists struggle to feel or display their own emotions, so they enjoy watching intense emotions bleed out from other people. Therefore, a public emotional meltdown from anyone around them is their perfect holiday treat, and one they secretly and silently wish for.

Narcissists will only continue their outlandish behaviour when all eyes are turned on them.

As difficult as it might seem, we have to look away. And slowly back away.

We can still love and care for a narcissist; however, we should never allow them to dictate or control our emotions.

If narcissists are not made to feel “special,” they will go to any length to sabotage celebrations, even if it is to their own detriment. They will possibly break up with their partner or fall out with family members immediately before holidays to ensure that the maximum amount of anguish and emotional upset spills out due to their not being around.

If they do not have total control over events taking place, they sabotage them by withdrawing their presence or refusing to engage.

Narcissists may demand that no one give them gifts, and they may act obnoxious or reclusive, or completely ostracise themselves from festivities. They do this solely and deliberately to affect other people, not out of their own preference not to celebrate. If they do receive gifts, they may sulk or throw tantrums, furious that the presents did not reach their high expectations.

Rather than showing gratitude, they are far more likely to show contempt.

The ironic thing is, those who are around narcissists take on all of the guilt and blame that the narcissist should be shouldering. Narcissists project their resentment and bitterness forcefully onto those around them, so the victims feel like the ones responsible for the chaotic mess.

Narcissists express rage to cause other people to rage, and then the narcissist moves swiftly into victim mode.

Rather than standing up to narcissists, those in receipt of their behaviour play small and tiptoe around them to ensure everything runs smoothly and the narcissist is meticulously tended.

The victim has learned that when the narcissist is confronted all hell breaks loose, so they pacify them to avoid conflict and drama. This is the ideal playing ground for a narcissist. It means they are easily able to take whatever they “deserve” without any questions or fights, after having effectively worn their “opponent” down.

 

 

Alex Myles is a qualified yoga and Tibetan meditation teacher, Reiki Master, spiritual coach and also the author of An Empath, a newly published book that explains various aspects of existing as a highly sensitive person. The book focuses on managing emotions, energy and relationships, particularly the toxic ones that many empaths are drawn into. Her greatest loves are books, poetry, writing and philosophy. She is a curious, inquisitive, deep thinking, intensely feeling, otherworldly intuitive being who lives for signs, synchronicities and serendipities. Inspired and influenced by Carl Jung, Nikola Tesla, Anaïs Nin and Paulo Coelho, she has a deep yearning to discover many of the answers that seem to have been hidden or forgotten in today’s world. To purchase Alex’s paperback book or ebook please clickhere or click here to connect with her on Facebook, or click here to join Alex’s Facebook group for empaths and highly sensitive people to connect.

A Mercury Retrograde Survival Guide For Empaths and Highly Sensitive People

I highly recommend all empaths take a note of when Mercury is in retrograde, as this period can have a turbulent effect on our lives.

By aligning, rather than going against these periods, we can save ourselves an incredible amount of frustration and avoid many problems.

Highly sensitive people (HSP’s) and empaths are deeply intuitive souls, which causes them to be ultra sensitive to other people’s energy levels and it also means that they are highly tuned to their surrounding environment.

Introverts can also suffer from the same harmful effects from these outside energies. Often one of the reasons a person is introverted is because other people’s energy levels and the energy from their surrounding environment becomes overbearing, resulting in an overwhelming desire to retreat.

Being highly sensitive to energy levels can be a blessed curse.

Whenever something is happening in the atmosphere, we are guaranteed to feel it.

It can be exquisitely beautiful experiencing life on a high vibrational level and it is also beneficial to be able to read situations without the need for words, however, it can also be extremely exhausting, debilitating and can cause emotional and psychological distress.

For these reasons, it is essential to take good care of ourselves and protect our energy field so that we do not become emotionally drained and burned out.

Usually, we sense things before they are happening, so we can try to pay attention and prepare as best as possible, so that we do not suffer through its period.

Empaths may also notice a heightened awareness to external stimuli during the shadow period of the retrograde, which takes place a couple of weeks before and a couple of weeks after the main time of Mercury’s retrograde. As empaths have a strong intuition and also absorb energy easily, we should be extremely careful with our interactions with others, as we will most likely be in an elevated state of being and on high alert.

It is also important to take steps to protect ourselves, so that other people’s negative energy does not penetrate ours and trigger us to react easily. 

Three or four times a year Mercury appears as though it is traveling backwards through the Zodiac—it isn’t though it is just an illusion.

Mercury is closer to the sun than Earth is, therefore, its orbit is shorter.

As Mercury passes closest to Earth, the planet appears as though it slows down and is perceived as though it is stationary. We gain the illusion that Mercury is travelling backwards, however, it is all to do with the speed that Earth and Mercury are travelling at. The effect is similar effect as when we are on a train and we pass another it can seem as though the one is going backwards.

All planets go through a similar period, where they appear as though they are spinning backwards. The reason we pay strict attention to the planet Mercury is that the effects of it seem to affect a lot of people in similar ways.

Mercury is the planet associated with communication, listening, speaking, learning, negotiating, buying, selling, traveling plans, vehicles, contracts and agreements. So, when Mercury is in retrograde we can expect any or all of these things to also spin as though they appearing to go backwards, or out of control.

We can try not to pay too much attention to anything that goes wrong during the retrograde period, as quite often is the case, once Mercury appears back on track, or even further down the line, things sort themselves out and reach a satisfactory resolve.

Mercury retrograde is strongly associated with confusions, delays and frustrations—it is the perfect time to take a look at our past. A lot seems to happen in a short space of time, which can overwhelm and confuse our internal processing.

By changing our perception and instead of allowing it to cause turmoil, we can instead look at things with a simplistic and carefree view—letting go of what is not meant for us and allowing other things to briefly return for moments of reflection.

As an empath, I often view the time of Mercury retrograde as though the wind is going through a change a direction. I can either go with the wind, feeling the breeze and allowing it to carry me along, or I can go against it, causing myself to struggle, feel flustered and eventually weaken from pushing away from it.

The more I know about myself as an empath and also about Mercury retrograde, the fewer problems I experience during this period.

I try to keep a low profile, other than keeping company with those whose energies align similarly with mine.

I understand that everyone, whether an empath type personality or not, will be affected in some way by this retrograde. Therefore, even if I am aware of my own sensitivities and personality changes during this time, I am not able to judge how others will be reacting to the powerful energy changes.

As empaths we pick up on other people’s behavior, emotions and karmic energies.

During Mercury retrograde we will be more sensitive than normally, therefore, we are at a higher risk of being easily influenced by all of these things, causing them to have a detrimental effect on our own emotions. By remaining aware and alert to what is happening around us, we are in a stronger position to protect ourselves, so that we do not absorb anything that may be harmful.

We can try to take everything with a pinch of salt, and try not to take offense to anything that is done, or things that are said and also try not react to things that can just be brushed off and will soon be forgotten.

We may feel intolerable, so we can remind ourselves constantly that everyone is behaving a little out of turn and until retrograde has passed, absolutely anything out of the norm is possible. We can keep an open and non-judgmental mind, even when we are tested beyond our normal patience levels and boundaries.

Mercury retrograde is a difficult time for many with the universe’s energy interacting with our own—to take on and absorb other people’s altered states of energy as well as our own, just compounds onto an already intensive period while experiencing the effects of the retrograde.

Empaths are often seen as human sponges, soaking up the emotional and psychic static electricity that others send out.

Taking on other people’s toxic waste that is thrown out to the atmosphere can be destructive and devastating to the inner balance and calm of an empath’s often fragile being.

By keeping certain people and situations at an arms length, we can use a form of self-preservation to ensure these few weeks are as stress free as possible. Before making any plans or arrangements, consider who, what, where and when things will be happening to avoid any possible traumatic or uncomfortable situations.

Often during Mercury retrograde, things can become overwhelming as the effect of Mercury’s energy, together with all human’s accumulative energy levels can drown out our own.

If we love our own company, this can be the ideal time to kick back and bury down into our cave.

Whether with friends, a loved one, family members or colleagues, there will come a period when we will require some time out. When solitude calls, it is best not to worry too much about offending other people, as our own emotional needs and health should be prioritized first.

Often, a small amount of time alone to just rebalance can be all that is required, however, if the situation becomes too intense to bear, excuse the departure and leave immediately. Finding a peaceful spot with nature, reading a book, meditating or listening to music can be all that it takes to recharge and harmonize.

I see it as a mini-hibernation, though at all times paying attention to what is coming, going and also what is remaining inside so that I can alter my inner compass and head out of the period with a great sense of where I’m going, where I’ve been, but most importantly where I am right now.

Often, right in the middle of retrograde I take a short break, either on my own or with someone close to me, even if it’s just for a few days, to escape from the height of its effects. I think carefully before going and always double or triple check all travel plans, I head to a place I am familiar with—somewhere that I class as a safe haven. If possible I revisit a place with childhood memories and not too far away to avoid any retrograde infused travel chaos ensuing.

I choose a place where I can forget about technology and communication, so that I have less chance of complications happening or being in the crux while things around me go wrong.

I then can slow things down and relax, calmly, in a place which I am familiar with, which I always think is the best way for me to reflect on my past, especially serendipities, and look at where I’m going and try to make sense of my journey. This is something that Mercury retrograde is a great time for, as it too is in this process of “traveling backward” whilst still going forward.

When we feel things at such a high level it is often because we are not fully present and grounded in our own physical body. Sometimes emotions can be uncomfortable to deal with, so we constantly shift in and out of our personal space causing something known as “outer body experience.”

As we practice being fully present and grounded to the earth, we will notice that we deal with things with a far calmer and more rational mind, allowing us to gain a greater understanding of whatever it is that is bothering us, rather than jumping around to avoid or put it off for another day. It is also effective in helping us to work out what is our own, and what is someone else’s emotional baggage, allowing ourselves to remove anything that is unwanted and unneeded.

As we focus on being present in the moment and grounded within our own body, it will become almost impossible for the mind to migrate to other people’s emotional spaces, where we are putting ourselves at risk of absorbing negative energy. If this does happen from time to time, we will find ourselves reacting far quicker to reposition ourselves back into our core.

The grounding practice is performed best with bare feet on fresh grass or earth, if possible. It’s quite simply called grounding as the process involves rooting to the earth. This method keeps us balanced by using the earth’s natural healing energies to stabilize and revitalize. If this can be done next to plants or trees, the benefits will be heightened as they will naturally absorb any waste (carbon dioxide) and replace it with fresh energy (oxygen).

We can take time to reconnect with old friends or relatives who we haven’t seen for a while.

Anything from the past that we have been thinking about, we can make connect with. Although, I personally try not to communicate with those whose energy feels toxic or those who energies feel heavy and weigh me down.

It is important to remember that we can choose what energy we absorb. Although there is negative and toxic energy in our environment and surrounding other people, it is up to us whether we allow it to have an influence on our own energy field.

Rather than becoming affected by energies that drain us, we can make a conscious effort to avoid and protect ourselves from them by raising our vibration so that we attract and submerge in positive energies instead.

Mercury retrograde used to be a time I dreaded.

I anticipated it as though a thick dark cloud was slowly approaching and I would feel as though I was drowning when it finally stood above me. Instead of crouching under the rainfall shielding myself from the force, I now stretch my arms wide out and stand grounded, allowing it to energize me and embrace its powerful life-force and nourishment, knowing it soon will pass.

I see this time period as a great learning curve, I discover that I can learn a lot about patience, acceptance and also about releasing and letting go of things that in the scheme of things, do not matter. I reflect inwards, but I also find it interesting to look outwards too at how the energy is affecting others. By keeping a clear mind and also a carefree attitude, I allow things to come, things to go and also things to return that normally I might reject.

I discover I find a lot about who I am internally, even though the planets are spinning in such a way that could cause confusion. When the storm sets in, I keep my feat grounded and ride the wave perfectly, and when I do fall, I use it as a chance to reflect once again, pick myself back up and try again.

Although this used to be a period of turmoil, it is now one that I celebrate as it helps me push through the nitty-gritty and uncomfortable-ness I often avoid.

It is a period of soul searching and one of reflection. One of accepting what is and releasing what isn’t.

The most important thing to remember, during Mercury retrograde is a few very simple words that will turn a possibly traumatic period into a very calm one, and also a period of time that helps me to get to know myself far better. These few words are “Let it go.”

Let it go, let it go, let it go.

I tell myself these words over and over. I repeat them in my head, I say them out load, I even scream them if necessary.

The words become my mantra and also remind me that all is not what it seems, so what better thing can I do for myself and for everything around me than to, Let go, let go, let go.

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