Ebook/Paperback Book By Alex Myles ~ An Empath: A Highly Sensitive Person’s Guide To Energy, Emotions and Relationships

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An Empath: A Highly Sensitive Person’s Guide To Energy, Emotions And Relationships

Available in ebook, paperback and hardback

About The Author

Alex is a qualified Yoga teacher, Reiki Master, Teacher of Tibetan Meditation and Spiritual Coach along with many other practices that work with the flow of universal life force energy in order to harmonise the mind, body and soul. She is also an empath and is very aware of the powerful effect that energy has on all aspects of our existence, especially our relationships. Alex believes empaths are here on Earth for a divine purpose and that is to learn how to effectively radiate healing energy so that immense much-needed change can occur. However, she also believes that before we are able to heal others, it is vital that we first heal ourselves.

About the book

A 588 page, 54 chapter book covering a variety of subjects, including an understanding of an empath’s traits and characteristics, energy, remaining grounded and balanced, protecting our energy, triggers, projection, empath/narcissist relationships, healing, letting go, introverts, loneliness/solitude and beyond…

An excerpt from the book…

Empaths attract various types of relationships with those who either deny and repress how they feel or with those who are tormented by their emotions. The reason we are drawn towards them is because we naturally want to eradicate any form of suffering and pain. Unfortunately, we can  be quite naive and forget that not everyone in the world perceives things as we see them. This leaves us vulnerable and subjected to overwhelming and debilitating emotions.

We not only feel and experience our own condition, we also absorb the energy from everything and everyone around us too. Before we can fully understand ourselves or those we become intricately entangled with, we first have to learn how energy operates so that we can acknowledge, identify, discern, process and ultimately transmute all entities so that any negativity in our surrounds, or within ourselves, instantly transcends to positive.

Until we do this we will experience other people’s pain simultaneously, so whenever someone around is struggling emotionally, physically or psychologically we are gravitationally pulled down too and we then struggle with them.

Learning how to identify our own energy from all that exists around us allows us to find balance and harmony in what can seem at times like a raw and extremely harsh world. Our energetic skin is paper-thin and we are highly sensitive creatures and this means that being an empath can be an incredibly tormenting or an exquisitely beautiful way to experience life.

It is simply a double-edged sword.

Our sensitivities can help, however, they can also hinder us. That is until we figure out how to manage our gifts so that they elevate and construct us rather than causing a continuous pattern of internal or external devastation and deconstruction.

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How To Lovingly Cut Energetic/Emotional Ties With Someone Whose Energy Feels Toxic


Whenever we bond with someone, attachment cords (energetic ties) are created, which travel from our heart chakra to the other person’s heart chakra or from solar plexus to solar plexus, as this is the chakra directly related to our emotions.

When energetic cords have developed for purposes other than a heart or soul connection, the cords could be anywhere in the body. There may be numerous cords, and they may be in various shapes, strengths and sizes.

When cords have been formed, we have direct access to another person’s emotional, mental, spiritual and physical state, as well as their intentions and capabilities, which also enables a transfer of energy.

Energetic cords can provide us with a detailed insight enabling us to read someone else’s energy clearly, and also so that we can send and receive emotions. Cords enable us to communicate easily and just know information about the other person, without any words or actions.

However, cords can also drain and deplete us if we are radiating too much energy through them, or if the other person is aware that a cord is in place, and their impulse is to draw on whatever is available so they can draw energy from us. This can happen when we have entered a relationship with someone, believing they have good intentions, when they have no desire to establish anything meaningful, and they are manipulative in the hope that they will gain something.

Deciding with our head that we want to move on from previous experiences is not always enough. We sometimes need to energetically disconnect emotions and feelings, and really feel that we are ready to make the break.

If we want to let go of an attachment to someone, we can sever the energetic ties. We may choose this if we are obsessively thinking about an ex-partner, feeling remnants of pain due to old memories, feeling resentment or bitterness due to a past grievance, feeling tied in or drawn toward someone as though they have a hold over us, or if we are simply finding it difficult to move on and start over.

If we do not sever the ties, we may keep getting caught up in low frequency relationships, which is why we attract similar types of people (or the same kinds of relationships) over and again, as the cords in place are keeping us connected to the past.

Sometimes energetic cords are mutual and have valves going each way so that energy is relayed and received. Other times they have a one-way valve that gives out energy but receives no return flow. If we are in a relationship and we are sending out waves of energy but not receiving a flow in return, it is likely that we are involved with someone who is emotionally unavailable, and if we continue to do this without regularly recharging our own energy, we will very quickly become drained.

Sometimes we want to cut a cord with someone so we can detangle ourselves from negative interactions and emotions, but we do not want the person to physically leave our lives. When we remove these low frequency cords, we can still remain connected to the person, but the dynamics will change.

Cord cutting can be used in current relationships that have painful history, especially if there are triggers causing arguments over the same thing continuously. In these cases, we can locate the cords that are influencing our emotions and causing us to instinctively react, while leaving the positive cords intact. Our relationship will not suffer when we cut these cords, as only the negative aspect of the relationship will be eliminated.

Before cutting cords, it is essential that our mind is rational, calm and clear, so that we do not negatively influence the process and also so we can radiate loving, compassionate and healing vibrations. Meditating beforehand will ensure our mind is balanced and we are also grounded during the process. It is also beneficial to forgive ourselves and the other person so that we are not leaving remnants of resentment, retaliation, anger or bitterness behind (or allowing space for new detrimental cords to attach).

To locate the cords, we need to use our intuitive senses to guide us, as the majority of suppressed emotions connected to the cord are deep within our unconscious mind. When we have located the area of the cord, we can raise our awareness and keep our attention on the cord to gain an insight into why it is there, and what emotion or belief of ours allowed it to form.

When we attune to the vibration of the cords and pay attention to the sensations within our physical body and energetic field, we will easily recognize the difference between healthy and unhealthy connections.

Healthy, high vibrational cords are connected to our energy field and are found radiating from our aura. They do not pull in energy, but the energy they radiate is extremely powerful and offers unconditional love, humility, care, kindness, compassion and spiritual growth. Healthy cords have a very light, pure and clear vibration, and they are also known as “spiritual ties.”

Unhealthy, low, dense vibrational cords are based on dysfunction and are created due to things such as desire, control, fear, anger, abandonment, frustration, rejection, resentment, insecurity and material or financial benefits. The cords feel thick and heavy and their vibration is dense. They will likely feel tender, and the area around them may ache. If there has been trauma or heartbreak associated with the cord, the pain will keep repeating until we are ready to release it and let go of the memories.

If someone has connected a cord to us, they may be depleting us without us realizing it, and the cord may not be at the heart or anywhere obvious, so we may have to scan the body to find where the entrance to the attachment cord is—and we also have to scan to see how many they have connected. If we have poured a lot of emotion, time and energy into a relationship—or if the other person has invested a lot—the bond could be particularly strong, therefore the cord will also have resilience and strength.

Cord cutting is done using visualization by focusing on one cord at a time. When we are lying still, with our eyes closed, inhaling and exhaling deeply, we can scan how our entire body feels and focus on our sensations. We may begin to notice a dense, heavy feeling in certain areas that we are drawn towards and that will likely be the cord that is the most significant and powerful one. We can then set the intention to cut the cord and visualize severing it with scissors or any sharp instrument.

When we have cut the cords, we can pour healing, love and light where the cord has been severed. If we leave an open energetic wound, it is likely a new cord will quickly attach, as we will be leaking energy and be susceptible to anyone who detects this and wants to drain our energy.

After cutting cords we may feel a little unsettled, anxious and overly emotional. However, once we meditate and ground ourselves, these feelings should dissipate, and we will feel lighter, freer, calmer and more balanced. If we feel the same way as we did before the process, we have not severed the cord properly and removed it from its root, so we can return and repeat the process.

When we have cut a cord, the other person may notice it energetically, so they may be drawn to contact us to see if they can put new ones in place, as they are no longer receiving an energetic feed from us.

When the cords have been successfully severed, the illusions within that relationship will fall away, rendering us free to finally see the dynamic in a clear light, without emotions infiltrating and causing an energetic, painful disturbance.


From “An Empath” – by Alex Myles…  (ebook available on Amazon)  please click here 

Image  Flickr/Zechariah Judy

With gratitude to Yoli Ramazzina <3 

The Toxic Attraction Between An Empath And A Narcissist


I am an empath. I discovered I was an empath after I got involved in a very intense and highly destructive relationship with a narcissist.


For a detailed explanation of both the narcissist and empathy personality types, please click here and here.

From my own experience and studies on the narcissist personality type, there is one noticeable core trait: A narcissist is wounded.

Something, somewhere along the line, often stemming from childhood causes a person to feel worthless, unimportant and unvalued and, due to this, they will constantly and very desperately seek validation.

Here comes the empath, the healer. An empath has the ability to sense, feel and absorb other people’s pain and often takes it on as though it were their own. If an empath is not consciously aware of healthy boundaries when dealing with people who have harmful intentions and they do not understand how to protect themselves, they will very easily and very quickly strongly bond with the narcissist in order to try to fix and repair any damage and attempt to eradicate all their pain.

What the empath fails to realise is that the narcissist is a taker. An energy sucker, a vampire so to speak. They will draw the life and soul out of anyone they come into contact with, given the chance. And they won’t stop.

They do this so that they can build up their own energy reserves and, in doing so, they can use the imbalance to their advantage.

This dynamic will bewilder, confuse and debilitate an empath, as if they do not have a full understanding of their own or other people’s capabilities, they will fail to see that not everyone has the same intentions as they do. An empath will always put themselves into other people’s shoes and experience the feelings, thoughts and emotions of others, while forgetting that other people may have an agenda very different to their own and that not everyone means well or is sincere.

The narcissist’s agenda is one of manipulation, it is imperative they are in a position whereby they can rise above others and be in control. The empath’s agenda is to love, heal and care. There is no balance and it is extremely unlikely there ever will be one.


The more love and care an empath offers, the more powerful and in control a narcissist will become.

The more powerful the narcissist becomes, the more likely the empath will retreat into a victim status.

Then, there is a very big change—Due to the constant turbulence the empath may take on narcissistic traits as they too have become wounded and are constantly triggered by the damage being in the company with a narcissist creates. Before long, an extremely vicious circle has begun to swirl around the two.

When a narcissist sees that an empath is wounded they will play on this and the main intention will be to keep the empath down. The lower down an empath becomes, the higher a narcissist will feel. An empath will begin to frantically seek love, validation, confirmation and acceptance from a narcissist and each cry for help will affirm to the narcissist what they are desperate to feel inside—worthy.

A bitter battle can ensue.

As an empath focuses solely on their pain, trauma and the destruction of their lives, they can become self-obsessed and fail to see where the damage is coming from. Instead of looking outwards and seeing what is causing it, the empath will turn everything inward and blame themselves.

An empath at this stage must realise the situation they are in and sharply wake up to it, as anyone who is deeply in pain and is hurt can take on narcissistic tendencies themselves as they turn their focus onto their own pain and seek out others to make them feel okay again.

Any attempt to communicate authentically with the narcissist or receive comfort will be futile as they will certainly not be looking to soothe and heal anyone else. Not only this, they are extremely charismatic and manipulative and have a powerful way of turning everything away from themselves and onto others.

A narcissist will blame their own pain on an empath, plus they will also make sure the empath feels responsible for the pain they too are suffering.

If the empath does not step firmly into their own power they will begin to crumble under the weight of it all.

By this stage the empath will know they are in a destructive relationship and they will feel so insecure, unloved and unworthy that it can be easy to attempt to blame all of the destruction onto the narcissist.

However, an empath should not be looking to blame anyone else. An empath has a choice, to remain the victim, a pawn in the narcissists game or to garner all the strength they can muster and find a way out.

Emotionally exhausted, lost, depleted and debilitated an empath will struggle to understand what has happened to the once loving, attentive, affectionate and charismatic person they were attracted to.

How we allow ourselves to be treated is a result of our own choices. If an empath chooses to stay in a relationship with a narcissist and refuses to take responsibility for the dynamic, they are choosing at some level what they believe they are worth on the inside.

An empath cannot let their self-worth be determined by a narcissist. It is imperative they trust and believe in themselves enough to recognise that they do not deserve the hurtful words or actions that the narcissist delivers and to look for an escape route.

In an empath’s eyes, all they searched and looked for was someone to take care of and love and, sadly, ultimately to “fix.” That is where the trouble began and that is the most profound part of this that an empath must realise.

We are not here to fix anyone. We cannot fix anyone. Everyone is responsible for and capable of fixing themselves, but only if they choose to do so.

The more an empath can learn about the personality of a narcissist the sooner they will spot one and the less chance they have of developing a relationship with one. If a relationship is already underway, it is never too late to seek help, seek understanding and knowledge and to dig deep into one’s soul and recognise our own strengths and capabilities and do everything we can to build the courage and confidence to see it for what it is and walk away—for good.

The chance of a narcissist changing is highly unlikely, so we shouldn’t stick around waiting for it to happen. If a narcissist wants to change, then great, but it should never happen at the expense of anyone else. They are not consciously aware of their behaviour and the damage it causes and in their game they will sacrifice anyone and anything for their own gain—regardless of what pretty lies and sweet nothings they try to whisper.

An empath is authentic and is desperate to live true to their soul’s purpose and will very likely find the whole relationship a huge lesson, a dodged bullet and painfully awakening.

A narcissist will struggle to have any connection to their authentic self. They will likely walk away from the relationship very quickly and easily once they realise that they have lost their ability to control the empath. The game is no longer pleasurable if they are not having their ego constantly stroked, so they will move on, emotionless, and waste no time seeking out their next victim.

The only reason a true narcissist stays is when they think they still have something to gain.

The ability for these two types to bond is quite simply impossible. The narcissist’s heart is closed, an empath’s is open—it is nothing short of a recipe for a huge disaster, and unfortunately, not a beautiful one.

To purchase Alex’s book, An Empath, A guide to Emotions and Relationships (Including those with narcissists) Please click here


To read the original/full article please click here… http://www.elephantjournal.com/2015/06/the-toxic-attraction-between-an-empath-a-narcissist/


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Friday 16th September Full Moon: Wounded Healer Chiron Influencing Love & Pain


Over the next few days we are going to feel a surge of loving energy flowing through us. This energy is rising to alert and awaken us so that we feel courageous enough to accept ourselves, and those around us, exactly as we are.


We will feel marinated in unconditional heart-centered love and sense a vibrational entrance that will be encouraging a total acceptance of our entire being, and this is something that we have been waiting our entire adult lives for.


Not only that, this high frequency energy will be spilling over and everyone around us will feel warmed and lit up by the powerful rays of healing, loving, light energy glowing from our aura.


We are going to surprise ourselves by feeling intense and unmistakable electrifying impulses that will feel like gentle, subtle lighting bolts striking us, crying out for us to finally forgive ourselves for everything we have put our soul through for numerous years. We will also feel compelled to offer forgiveness and a profound depth of soul understanding to everyone around us, including people who have very badly hurt us in the past. This doesn’t mean that we will allow those that have harmed us a close place in our lives, just that we will be scattering an infinite amount of forgiveness far and wide.


We will very easily feel the ability to let go and release all of the aches and pains that for far too long have been causing us agony due to being firmly attached to our hearts.


This overwhelming desire to break free from whatever has hurt us and move on is occurring a few different reasons.


The first is that the Sun and Moon are in opposite signs of the zodiac, which creates a yin and yang, dark and light, positive and negative effect. It is the energy of opposites and this means that we will feel encouraged to come to terms with our flaws and faults and not only that, we will embrace and feel comfortable enough to celebrate and cherish all of our positive aspects too.


The second and most significant reason is that the Moon is in close conjunction with Chiron, the cosmic rock that represents the wounded healer that resides within us all. This energy will be pulling to the surface all of our old unhealed wounds and drawing our attention to anything that has caused us suffering so that we acknowledge, tend to, balm and heal anything that has been silently triggering us to react, respond and act in ways that aren’t a reflection of how we want truly to behave. Healing our wounds also assists  soul-growth as when we move on from past incidents that have caused us pain, we are no longer tethered to them and we can head onwards towards new, revolutionary experiences that play a huge part in the healing of others who may have troubles and problems and who may be struggling to move forward.


During these few days when the Moon is at its strongest, we will very likely feel vulnerable, especially as the veil that protects our energy field is extremely thin during a Full Moon, however our vulnerability becomes a strength when we surrender to it and use it to recognise the parts of our inner selves that we have masked and hidden away for far too long.


We will feel empowered to evoke and then let go of anything that we know is harmful, while gracefully accepting the things that we cannot currently change.


Pluto is also about to come out of a 5-month retrograde and this movement is going to deeply transform major areas of our life that have felt stuck and also that have anchored aspects of our life for the whole of the summer. We will notice this shift occurring as it will feel like an internal jolt freeing us to feel able to make decisions again, break old habits and patterns and reach out and take hold of all of the things that we have wanted and that up until now have been passing too swiftly by.


September’s Full Moon is in creative, imaginative, intuitive, perceptive Pisces and this can cause us to feel a little more emotional than normal. However, these high emotions arrive with perfect timing as we can harness and channel them so that they serve us for the heart related matters we are currently experiencing.


We will feel full of love, compassion, empathy and understanding so anything that is emotionally important to us will feel the full impact of our enchanting, buoyant heart energy, therefore, our friendships, relationships and any soul connection that we have will benefit greatly.


Where there once was conflict, there now will be peace and forgiveness. Where there were once major difficulties in communication or troubles surrounding romance, we will begin to feel at ease and intuitively know the right thing to do or say so that bridges can be built.


We are healing at an unprecedented speed and our fragmented pieces are effortlessly slotting back together. We are going to be feeling harmonious, balanced and at one with ourselves and comfortable in our skin, knowing that whatever challenges face us, we have the power, strength and a remarkable amount of determination to bounce back, realign with who we are at our core and continue moving forward.


No longer will we allow the storm clouds from our past dampen and darken our days.


This is the beginning of a new era and one that we have been working towards throughout our entire lifetime here on Earth. We have all the tools and knowledge needed to carve our way onto a brighter, smoother, soul nourishing and rewarding path and one that is brilliantly illuminated by this energizing turbo-charged lunar eclipse beaming Moon.


It is going to be a miraculous, magical week and one that we will remember for some time to come, but only if we are willing to absorb within the energies radiating from this soulful, life-altering, wise, reflective moon.


We are being called to remove the old, stagnant entities that have been weighing us down so that we have enough space to allow for everything that is ready and patiently waiting for us.


The seeds of new, magnificent beginnings are about to be planted and they will take root and we will notice them surfacing in various areas of our lives over the next few months.


Anything we choose to set intentions for during this week will manifest organically and naturally and we will reap all the benefits as it all comes to fruition at the opening of 2017, just in time for a new start that will be overflowing with an abundance of loving energy and important soul-enhancing connections.


This week allow the heart and mind to come together, decide the direction you would like your life to move in, say goodbye to the old and prepare and make positive plans for a future hand-crafted and created exactly the way you want it. It won’t happen immediately, but taking small steps, putting in a little effort and also remaining focused, watch in awe and wonder as whatever you open your heart to blossoms and takes shape right before your eyes.


This is your time. You have waited for this opening and energetic opportunity to boost you, and you deserve it. Closure has arrived to say goodbye to many months of emotional, mental or physical hardship, and a portal has energetically opened for clarity and to recognize and utilize the tremendous personal power that is within you. That has always been there.


Never forget your significance, unique purpose and worth again: Love, embrace and own it – you are a  cosmic warrior, an earth-planet-Adventurer, a star laced moonchild, feel proud, whatever part of your journey you are at, you are where you are meant to be.


Write a sincere, faith-driven love-letter to yourself, listing all the things of great heart-importance. Light a candle under the Full Moon and read the list slowly over and over. Release the note to the Universe, either take it to water or carefully burn it and watch the energies drift and transform.


Believe, pay attention and follow the signs.

To purchase Alex’s book on kindle please click here..



Is It Possible To Be An Empath And A Narcissist?


Empaths are highly sensitive people and can tune in to other people’s energy, including their emotions, feelings, motivations and beliefs.

They can read people extremely well and some empaths are so highly attentive, observant, and intuitive that they can even tap into other people’s thought processes.

But here’s the thing…

So can narcissists.

In fact, many narcissists are even better and more highly skilled at reading people than some empaths are.

Does this make a narcissist an empath? The answer is no, most definitely not.

The main difference between an empath and a narcissist is their intentions. What is behind their reason for reading people and what do they then intend to do with the information once they obtain it.

Two people, particularly an empath and a narcissist, can do exactly the same thing, but both can be intending and hoping for significantly different outcomes.

Empaths read other people’s energy for selfless reasons, and mainly so that they can be compassionate and reach out to offer support, healing and understanding. When they attune to other people’s emotions, feelings and tendencies they gain a deeper connection and generally find it natural to show compassion and be empathetic.

Narcissists read other people’s energy purely for selfish reasons and it is mainly so that they can then control, manipulate, delude and overpower other people. When they profile people by reading their energy they gain a greater insight into how their mindset works and the state of their emotional and mental wellbeing. This gives them a huge advantage over any unsuspecting, vulnerable or naïve person they come into contact with because the narcissist appears to be interested in the other person—by displaying faux care mixed with a little charm—so that they can fool them into thinking they are a genuinely empathetic person. The trouble is they only show interest to people if they think it will benefit them in some way, whether emotionally, financially or materialistically.

Empaths extend care and attention externally toward others and narcissists care and tend internally and purely for themselves and although they may seem to have characteristics that appear similar, underneath the surface they are most definitely not the same.

It is often thought that empaths have paper-thin skin while a narcissist’s is thick and impenetrable, but this is entirely untrue. In many ways the two are similar and this is why it can become confusing for people.

Empaths and narcissists are both highly sensitive and they can both become hurt and offended extremely quickly and easily.

When an empath feels hurt or overly emotional, they generally internalize their pain and question themselves about what they could have done wrong to result in their experience of pain or how they might have caused someone to treat them in a certain way.

When narcissists feel hurt they externalize their pain and project it onto other people. They export their unpleasant feelings outwardly and would never question what they may have done to offend or hurt other people. Empaths regularly consider how they can change their behaviors, whereas, narcissists would refuse at all costs to take any responsibility for their actions, which is why it is unlikely that they ever change their ways.

Empaths feel other people’s pain, absorb it and they internally suffer for it and this causes them to be caring and considerate and try to alleviate other people’s suffering while also reducing the simulated pain they feel themselves.

Narcissists can also sense and feel other people’s pain, but instead of trying to understand the other person and show compassion, care and consideration, they are far more likely to get angry and aggressive at the other person for making them feel emotions they would rather not feel or be aware of. This can then cause the narcissist to turn on the other person with cruel and cutting words or anger so that the other person feels guilty and ashamed for causing the narcissist to experience emotions that they picked up on and are not their own.

The biggest difference between empaths and narcissists is the ego.

Empaths generally have little interest in the ego and generally do not care or have awareness as to what other people think of them. If they want or need something they will work hard to provide for themselves without intentionally hurting others.

Narcissists are concerned with their ego and will use people and step on them to get what they want. They go to great lengths to protect their ego’s desires and if any one criticizes or rejects them or attempts anything that could hurt their ego they become extremely defensive and will tear the other person down and try to weaken them before they even get close.

When an ego is inflated and at its worst it will push people to be overly obsessed with their physical appearance, financial status, personal possessions and generally how they are perceived by others. When the ego is balanced, these things are still important to many people but not at the same high level. What causes someone to be narcissistic is the way they use, control and manipulate people to cause illusions so that they are able to gain and maintain superficial things. They will go to great lengths to preserve their lifestyle without caring if they hurt or destructively affect other people in any way to get their egotistical needs met.

Although empaths and narcissists are on opposing ends of the spectrum and it is not possible to be both at the same time, it is possible for empaths to behave in ways that could be viewed as narcissistic, particularly if they feel emotionally hurt. They can still be aggressive, unkind, selfish, and treat people in ways that are not acceptable, however, they are aware of the affects of their actions and clearly see and take responsibility for how they behave and will interrogate themselves to find the root cause of it and try to change.

At the same time they will also feel guilty for how they may have affected the other person, so their suffering is internally compounded. Empaths also do not express negative behaviors with the intention of gaining anything, in any way, from other people. Narcissists will not suffer either for themselves or others and will do whatever it takes to make other people carry those emotions.

Everyone is capable of expressing themselves in ways that are negative and that can be detrimental to others, but the significant difference is that a narcissist’s intention is to feed off other people to satisfy their ego self, whereas other people express their negative, low vibrational tendencies without the intention of benefiting financially, materialistically or for superficial personal reasons and they will recognize how they act and take accountability.

For the full article please click here…

Is it Possible to be Both an Empath & a Narcissist?

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Aug 30 – Sep 22 ~ Our Luckiest, Most Loving Mercury Retrograde Yet!

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On August 30th 2016 Mercury stations retrograde in Virgo and as Mercury rules Virgo, this is going to be a highly loving, affectionate, harmonious, memorable period.

Often we dread Mercury retrograde as it can bring with it many problems and difficulties, particularly surrounding communication with our friendships and relationships. However, this time Venus and Virgo are both going to be influential, making it a time filled with love, appreciation, acceptance, romance, forgiveness and making amends for any previous misunderstandings.

Usually we are cautioned to tread carefully during these few weeks, but this time luck and fortune are on our side and we are in for a huge awakening, as we feel optimistic, rational, courageous and ready for the intense energy that is about to flow through us.
The main thing we need to remember so that we sail through this period is to remain consciously aware and alert so that we pay attention to how we are communicating and connecting with others around us and also so that we are open to exciting new opportunities and limitless possibilities.

It is vital that we are prepared for the major changes that are coming that are about to shake our life up, especially where romance is concerned. When we are mindful and in tune with ourselves and others close to us, we will be in a far better position to make the necessary adjustments that are required so that are in attuned to the transformational shift that will be taking place.

September 2016 is a life-changing month and it is one that is calling us to let go of the old stagnant energy that has been weighing us down so that we can release from our lives anything that no longer serves us or feels good. It really is the time to practice “Out with the old and in with the new,” and to focus our thoughts on the present moment and moving forward rather than being caught up in any pain, trauma or destruction from our past.

It is rare to have a Mercury retrograde phase that is so calming, clearing and peaceful as usually they are chaotic, turbulent and troublesome, so it is strongly recommended that we open to the energy and work with it.
Mercury retrogrades run on nine-year cycles and as 2016 is the ‘9th year’ (2+0+1+6=9) we will find ourselves reflecting back on the things, particularly those that have been detrimental, that prior retrogrades brought to our attention throughout the 9-year period from 2007-2016. All of the lessons and disturbances that those Mercury retrogrades made us aware of have built up inside us and are now churning, culminating and are coming to a head so that we can understand them before cutting them loose and starting over as next year will be the beginning of a brand new 9-year Mercury retrograde cycle. If ever there was a time to be ready for dramatic change, this is definitely it!

The main thing that is causing us to reflect and de-clutter from the harmful entities that we have allowed into our lives is our newfound, extremely profound feelings of self-belief and self-worth. We are finally realizing that everything that we have allowed around us has been our own doing and we have absolute control over who, what and where plays a main part in our existence.

This period isn’t a sudden or shocking transformation, although there will be times when it will feel like it. It is one that we have been working towards for many years and it is now coming to a close, enabling us to very easily and naturally untie the attachment cords to anything that has been anchoring us.

We are about to find freedom and taste it with hope, harmony and happiness and it won’t matter if our lives appear to remain the same externally, as it is internally that the greatest shifts and alterations are occurring.

We are changing shape and we are going to entirely love who we have become. We will find ourselves saying goodbye to the old in our lives while having love, compassion, forgiveness and gratitude in our hearts so that our emotional wounds can close and finally be given the chance to properly heal.

There will be no more digging up the past and torturing ourselves over so many of the things we cannot change, instead it will feel effortless to accept the path we have walked, understanding that we have become warrior-strong, wiser and more in touch with ourselves during the process.

Mercury retrograde is always a time for reflection and this time we are looking back with love and affection, even when we remember the times that we were painfully stung. We are on a journey and as we go we are collecting knowledge, life-skills and experience and it is essential to remember that all of the dots will eventually connect, even if they seem messy and pointless while we are plotting them.

We are fully in control and in charge of our lives and the stage we are heading onto is one where we can turn it all around, sweep it out, or tip it all upside down to shake off any dust and remnants. We will find the strength to release the rattling skeletons and rid ourselves of the ghosts that have been haunting and cluttering the way, particularly if they still have residues of heartache tied to them.

There is no reason to hold tight to anyone or force anything, whatever is healthy and meant for us will naturally remain and when we fully trust our intuition and senses we will attract the relationships and situations to our life that resonate with the highly positive, hopeful vibration that is strongly and brightly radiating from us.

It isn’t often we hear this, but without doubt this Mercury retrograde is going to be an immensely enjoyable one and while we may still get ruffled and feel challenged and unsettled at times throughout it, the uncomfortable sensations we feel are just our soul recalibrating and finding it’s way back to the center and to exactly where we are meant to be.

We are fearlessly tearing many layers from ourselves and pulling illusions down. Finally, after 9 years of hard work learning, struggling, twisting and turning we are coming back to ourselves and we are going to adore and appreciate every piece of the place we are at.

When we channel and integrate the energy from Mercury retrograde it works with us, not against us and this time it is offering us a chance to see the entire picture with clarity, draw a line under it and move onwards and upwards. Often we are tempted to run and hide during the retrograde, but this time we will feel the urge to stand out in the sun, reenergise, emerge and shine.

Even though there will be numerous occurrences taking place, it is still advisable not to react suddenly, that we stay patient and if possible that we wait until Mercury goes direct on September 22nd before making and putting in place any major, life-altering decisions. This is a time to observe, assess, note and plan ahead. We are transforming at a fast speed within, so it is important to remain calm and introspective and then put all that we have discovered into action when our circumstances are much clearer and the Mercury retrograde phase has passed.

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How To Love An Otherworldy Girl


An otherworldly girl will mystify you beyond anything your mind could ever hope to comprehend.

You will never fully understand her. It is probably easier not to try. Instead, if you love her, allow her to exist exactly as she is without any expectation, projection or superficial desire.

To know how to love her entirely, you only need to get to know her heart.

She won’t need you to see what she sees, love what she loves or to walk by her side to the enchanted places she roams to carefree and with reckless abandon. But if you do, be prepared for mystery, madness and magic to appear.

For this girl lives in the land of the ethereal. Everything there leaves a trail of stardust, and if you follow the glittering tracks you will notice sprinklings of signs, serendipitous, synchronicities and suggestions that tease you and lead you to discover the kind of reality you only ever thought would be found within a vivid, unfiltered and wild mind.

This otherworldly girl does not treasure handbags, diamonds or gold. The jewels she collects are the seashells, stones, crystals and other high vibrational tokens the planet has kindly scattered along beaches, mountaintops and paths that run alongside restless, flowing lakes.

She is all about soul resonation. If your heart-centered energy resonates with hers, your presence in her life will need no justification, and you will bond with such force and strength that eternity would never dare to challenge the union.

This girl will rock and distract you. When you meet her you will stumble down a bottomless rabbit hole, and as you free fall your life will unravel one layer at a time, and you will instantly begin to see through kaleidoscope lenses, but only if you are ready to believe.

You see…this world is not quite as you see it now.

This rare otherworldly mesmerizing creature that you are growing to love is going to tear down veils one by one. She will terrify and soothe you all at once simply by whispering a single, poetic, softly spoken word. To perceive as she does is not for the faint or guarded-hearted. And although she is sensitive and vulnerable, she is also the center of a life-changing storm more powerful than any desert has witnessed.

Do not underestimate her. For many have tried to pull her surreal existence apart as they have not understood it. They have feared the tornadoes that spin through her veins, and they have attempted to calm the chaos that keeps her wide-eyed, fueled and alluringly alive. Although they find her uniqueness irresistible, and they wanted a taste of this world she has created, the barriers in their mind caused such resistance that they failed to capture the bewitching charm that their soul longed.

She is a curious, timeless, sentimental, sensitive, infinite being. An old wise intuitive soul and a bewildered, mischievous, wounded child mixed into one, and she finds home in the hearts of all that she loves. Although she wanders, alone and free, she knows exactly which compass to follow.

If you feel an inexplicable, intimate, profound, spellbinding connection—almost as though you have known her before—it is likely because you have. You are eternal and will likely have crossed one another’s paths while traversing some distant realm.

You may think she is rebellious, unchartered and possibly even puzzling and peculiar, but if you observe how she moves, you will see that she is fluidly flowing with nature—and while she defies society and logic, it is with grace and without intention. Instead, she courageously steps in time to the pulse of the universe’s heartbeat, fearlessly breaking down false paradigms and taking down the walls of separation that generations before her had built.

She is immense joy and the deepest sorrow, with maximum measures of pleasure and pain. However, neither the darkness nor the light entices her to dance; she just twirls and spins without demands. She is a magnificent wonder that cannot be named, defined or pinned down. With unshakable determination there is nothing and no one that can hold, bind or harness her.

This girl may seem as though her life is dreamlike and as though it is an imaginative adventure of fantasy and far-fetched tales. And while this perception may hold some truth, when you look a little closer you will see that her magical mind is born from a raw reality. She sees with eyes that know no limits and feels with a heart that knows nothing of boundaries that divide one from another.

If you only want to love this extraordinary girl in the way you love the ocean when it is still, predictable and safe, then I advise you to step away. Her otherworldliness is more than that, and she will ruin and destroy that image you have prettily painted in your mind. She will unknowingly walk barefoot all over those idealized images of what you want her to be, and she will fly past the pedestals and unrealistic desires that attempt to quell her. She won’t glance back, and the girl who is not lost will be lost to you as she continues into the wilderness where she will remain unhandled and untamed.

If you want to own her, then please my friend, listen carefully; she doesn’t belong here, so it is impossible to claim and attempt to chain her. Romance her, love her intensely and with passion, and adore her whichever way you know how, but cherish her and let her be in all her wondrous glory. If you can’t—although it might hurt—let her go.

If you want to love her, then love her openly, love her freely.


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